No time for mom time
I have been in a hunch these past few weeks and I’m at my wits' end of how to deal with it. The days all blend together and every day seems the same as the last. I feel I have no time to do anything anymore and my creative spirit and yearning to feel like I'm accomplishing something valuable in life screams at me every day I wake up. Maybe this is a message for me to start changing some things in my life? But I don’t quite have the finances to just leave my job and go on a “spiritual journey” to find out what that passion is yet. I mean hello, I’m a mom and got someone that depends on me for everything. But I do long to have the freedom to create and dream of a day I can pursue my life dreams. At the age of 29, I should have all this figured out by now but feel as if I am far from that. There so many things I yearn to do but I just can’t seem to find the time to do them while I'm a full-time working mom.
Now social media has been my enemy for a while now, it has turned into a love-hate relationship between us and I'm certain most of all of you can relate to that. As I scroll through social media platforms, I regularly see other moms and women posting things about the work they are producing or the dreams they are tackling and concurring every day and I beat myself up for not having the time or funds to do similar things like these amazing and inspirational women do. They seem to have a lot of free time to work on themselves and I then get envious and wonder why I don’t have that kind of time too.
There is nothing more I would like then to have extra free time to go to yoga class, work on my artistic expression, read a book or even get a damn wax for crying out loud! But as I am writing this and bitching about my life, I realize the reason I don’t have the time is that I just have a very different schedule than other moms do in the world, and that’s ok. I work a full-time job as a manager putting in 40+ hours a week and my fiancé also works a full-time job at nights; the different schedules during the week allow us to not have to pay for a nanny right now. As soon as I get home from my job, I’m packing the family up in the car to drop the fiancé off to his job by 5 pm and then once I am finally home all I need to do is try to whip something up real quick for dinner. Then I catch up on some cleaning, give the little one a bath and finally get her outside for a bit and enjoy some quality time with my little girl before she’s ready for bed by 8 pm.
Life can be hard as a mom and I know I may seem like I’m bitching a ton but it's more of me just rambling. But I realize I will have my time to myself when she grows up and doesn’t need mom’s hugs and kisses anymore and I’m not ready to give up my long days yet. Anytime I have that’s free on the weekends I’m a-ok spending it with her every second I got, for I know these times will go by quicker than a blink of an eye; I mean shit it already has! She’s freaking 2 years old now. There will be my time in the future to work on myself and do the things I want to do but once that time comes I know all I will only belonging for is my sweet baby girl to be home cuddling with me before bedtime. I will be the one calling on her once she is gone hoping that she will fit me into her busy schedule as an adult, longing to spend as much time with her as possible but also realizing she has her own life to live.
As I am typing this, I understand that I don’t need any mom time I just need as much time as I can get with my daughter right now. I enjoy my days in the hustle and grind of a working mom's life and I really do try not to complain so much about it, but hey that’s only human nature, right? I'm ok with my hobbies only including being a mom and cooking meals for her while I blog about it. This may seem lame to others, but to me, it's the most fulfilling hobby I could have ever chosen to do in this lifetime. My old hobbies in life never made me they just made me into the person I have become. The bottom line is I love to spend every waking minute I have with my princess Betty Luna Capodice and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world not even extra time for me. You’re my peanut, my rock, and my glue that holds me together and I love you dearly Betty.




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